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Abortion Laws Arizona

Tue, 03 Feb 2026 05:56:53 GMT

Abortion Laws in Arizona - Updated: February 2026

Understanding Abortion Laws in Arizona

Navigating reproductive healthcare can feel overwhelming, especially as laws and regulations vary from state to state and can change through court rulings or voter-approved amendments. In Arizona, abortion laws were significantly impacted by a constitutional amendment passed in 2024 and subsequent court decisions in 2026.

If you are looking for information for yourself or someone you care about, understanding the current legal landscape can help support informed decision-making.

Arizona Constitutional Amendment (Proposition 139)

In 2024, Arizona voters approved Proposition 139 , a constitutional amendment establishing a state constitutional right to abortion prior to fetal viability.

The amendment prohibits the state from enforcing laws that interfere with abortion access before viability, which is generally considered to be around 24 weeks of pregnancy (though viability is determined by medical judgment and is not specifically defined in the amendment).

Current Abortion Laws in Arizona

Abortion Prior to Viability

Abortion is legal in Arizona prior to fetal viability.

Recent Court Ruling (2026)

In February 2026, a Maricopa County Superior Court judge struck down three previously enforced abortion-related laws, citing the 2024 constitutional amendment. Those laws included:

A restriction on the use of telemedicine for abortion pill distribution
A 24-hour waiting period requirement
A requirement that an ultrasound be performed at least 24 hours before an abortion
A law prohibiting abortions sought based on fetal sex, race, or genetic abnormality

As a result of the ruling:

The 24-hour waiting period is no longer in effect
A mandatory pre-abortion ultrasound is no longer required under state law
Telemedicine for medication abortion is permitted under current interpretation of the law

State legislative leaders have indicated plans to appeal the ruling, which means the legal landscape could continue to evolve.

Medication Abortion in Arizona

Under current law:

Medication abortion is permitted prior to viability
Telemedicine may be used for prescribing abortion pills
Regulations may continue to change depending on pending legal appeals

Because policies may shift, it is important to verify current requirements with a licensed medical provider.

Insurance Coverage

Arizona Medicaid and most private insurance plans generally do not cover abortion services, except in limited circumstances such as life endangerment, rape, or incest. Coverage policies vary by provider and plan.

Parental Consent for Minors

Arizona law continues to require parental consent for minors seeking an abortion.

If you are under 18 and unsure of your next steps, you can still receive free and confidential pregnancy testing and ultrasound services. Parental consent is not required for pregnancy confirmation services.

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We provide free unplanned pregnancy services and information about abortion in Arizona.

Miscarriage Care Is Not Affected

It’s important to clarify that Arizona’s abortion laws do not restrict access to miscarriage care . A miscarriage (spontaneous pregnancy loss) is not the same as an abortion , and medical care for miscarriage remains fully legal and available throughout the state.

Unfortunately, misinformation has led some to believe that emergency care for miscarriage is no longer accessible in states with abortion bans. This is not true and can be harmful. Miscarriages can present serious health risks, and hospitals in Arizona are both legally permitted and equipped to provide appropriate medical care. If you or someone you know is experiencing a miscarriage, do not hesitate to seek emergency medical attention.

Empowered Consent

Understanding your rights and responsibilities under state law is a crucial part of empowered consent. Whether someone chooses to carry a pregnancy to term, explore adoption, or seek an abortion, access to clear, accurate information is essential.

Our clinics offer free and confidential services before abortion across Arizona. If you're considering your options, we are here to support you with facts, not pressure. If you're not located near one of our clinics, we can also refer you to a free pregnancy clinic near you that can assist you as you navigate your next steps.

Schedule a Free Appointment

If you think you may be pregnant and want to understand your options, our pregnancy clinics across Arizona are here to help — completely free and confidential.

With convenient locations statewide, we offer pregnancy testing and ultrasounds to confirm pregnancy and determine eligibility for the abortion pill.

Our compassionate team is here to support you with facts, not pressure — so you can make an informed decision that’s right for you. Schedule your free appointment today and explore your options in a safe, nonjudgmental environment.

Plan C abortion

Fri, 15 Aug 2025 18:39:57 GMT

Plan C abortion

What Is Plan C (Medication Abortion)?

Considering Plan C abortion pills? Start with the care you deserve—begin with a free consultation and support.

If you’re facing an unplanned pregnancy in Arizona and exploring your options for abortion, you may have come across Plan C—an online resource about accessing abortion pills— Hey Jane , or other online telehealth abortion providers. Learn about Plan C, your pregnancy, and your options by requesting a free and confidential appointment at one of our pregnancy centers in Arizona.

Our free clinics offer ultrasound services to confirm these essential details so you can make an informed decision. Same-day appointments may be available, and all services are 100% confidential and provided at no cost to you.

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We provide free unplanned pregnancy services and information about abortion in Arizona.

Understanding Plan C

Plan C is an informal term used to describe a medication abortion, also known as the abortion pill . It’s called "Plan C" in reference to other common reproductive plans: Plan A (parenting), Plan B (emergency contraception), and Plan C (abortion pills). Many people use the term when considering ordering abortion pills online, through telehealth, or receiving them by mail.

Arizona Abortion Laws on Telehealth

Some telehealth providers offer medication abortion (commonly called the abortion pill) through online consultations. However, there’s important information to understand before choosing this option—including that buying abortion pills online is currently banned in Arizona. You cannot legally obtain abortion pills via telemedicine or mail in Arizona. Instead, medication abortion must be obtained in person, following state-mandated requirements such as a 24-hour waiting period, an ultrasound and multiple visits.

What is the abortion pill?

The abortion pill is actually a series of two medications taken to end an early pregnancy (FDA-approved up to 10 weeks). The first pill, mifepristone , blocks the hormone progesterone, which is essential for pregnancy to progress. Without it, the lining of the uterus breaks down. The second pill, misoprostol , is taken 24-48 hours later and causes the uterus to contract and expel the pregnancy.

Though often described as simple, a medication abortion is a significant medical decision. It’s important to be fully informed about the process, possible side effects, risks, and what to expect afterward.

Why a pre-abortion ultrasound matters

Before taking abortion pills, Arizona Law requires an ultrasound 24 hours before the abortion Even for medication abortion, the ultrasound requirement applies , because it's part of the in-person pre-abortion consultation and consent process. This step confirms several critical factors:

That you are actually pregnant and how far along you are (to determine if you're eligible for the abortion pill)
Whether the pregnancy is viable (ruling out miscarriage by confirming a heartbeat)
Confirming the pregnancy is in the uterus (ruling out an ectopic pregnancy which is a medical emergency)

Our clinics in Arizona offer early ultrasound services so that you don’t have to make this decision in the dark. Same-day appointments may be available, and all our services are confidential and at no cost to you.

You deserve confidence in your decision

You have options, and we’re here to help you explore them. Confirm your pregnancy, find out how far along you are, learn more about the abortion pill, and talk through what matters most to you in a safe, compassionate space. We’re here for you—no matter what you decide. Be fully informed before you make your decision. Request your free appointment today .

What is Hey Jane?

Fri, 15 Aug 2025 18:25:11 GMT

What is Hey Jane?

Considering online abortion pills through Hey Jane in Arizona? Start with the care you deserve—begin with a free consultation and support.

If you’re exploring your options for abortion—especially early in pregnancy—you may have come across Hey Jane, an online service that provides abortion pills by mail, Plan C , or other online telehealth abortion providers. It’s important to understand what Hey Jane offers and how local medical care, like a free pre-abortion ultrasound, still plays a critical role in your health and safety. Learn about abortion pills, your pregnancy, and your options by requesting a free and confidential appointment at one of our pregnancy centers in Arizona.

Free & Confidential APPOINTMENT

We provide free unplanned pregnancy services and information about abortion in Arizona.

Hey Jane abortion pills

Hey Jane is a telehealth provider that offers medication abortion (commonly called the abortion pill ) through online consultations. However, there’s important information to understand before choosing this option—including that buying abortion pills online is currently banned in Arizona. You cannot legally obtain abortion pills via telemedicine or mail in Arizona. Instead, medication abortion must be obtained in person, following state-mandated requirements such as a 24-hour waiting period and multiple visits.

How Hey Jane works

Hey Jane’s process typically includes:

Completing an online medical intake form
Connecting with a healthcare provider virtually
Receiving abortion pills (mifepristone and misoprostol) by mail
Following instructions to take the pills at home
Optional follow-up messaging or care

While it may seem convenient, this process often relies on the accuracy of self-reported pregnancy dates and symptoms, making an in-person confirmation critical for your safety.

Why a pre-abortion ultrasound still matters

Even if you’re planning to get abortion pills from a service like Hey Jane, an ultrasound is the only way to confirm key medical details about your pregnancy, including:

Whether the pregnancy is viable (not a miscarriage)
How far along you are (medication abortion is FDA-approved only up to 10 weeks)
Whether your pregnancy is ectopic (not in the uterus), which can be life-threatening and is not treatable with abortion pills

That’s why some telehealth providers, even Hey Jane, recommend or require an ultrasound before sending abortion pills. Our free clinics offer early ultrasound services to confirm these essential details so that you can make an informed decision.

Take the first step with confidence

Telehealth services like Hey Jane may offer convenience, but local care ensures legal compliance, safety, accuracy, and personal support. If you're considering abortion pills, start with the facts and a full understanding of your pregnancy.

You deserve compassionate, professional care, right here in Arizona. Request your free appointment today .

Early Ultrasound

Fri, 15 Aug 2025 18:02:29 GMT

Early Ultrasound

Why an early ultrasound matters—especially before taking abortion pills

Free early ultrasound services in Arizona

When facing an unintended pregnancy, it’s easy to feel overwhelmed. We believe information empowers. Whether you’re considering abortion or simply want to understand your options, getting a confirmation ultrasound is one of the most important first steps you can take.

Our free clinics are nonprofit pregnancy centers in Arizona. All of our medical services are provided by licensed healthcare professionals who care deeply about your health and well-being. Through our holistic approach, we advocate for you, validate your concerns, and provide answers to your questions. Request a free and confidential appointment.

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We provide free unplanned pregnancy services and information about abortion in Arizona.

Why should I get an ultrasound before an abortion?

Even if you’re planning to take the abortion pill, Arizona law requires an ultrasound by providers before prescribing the medication. Here’s why:

1. It’s vital to know how far along you are in your pregnancy.

Abortion methods differ based on how far along you are in your pregnancy. The abortion pill is only FDA-approved for up to ten weeks gestation. An ultrasound can accurately measure the gestational age and help determine your eligibility for different options.

2. In order to rule out an ectopic pregnancy.

Sometimes a pregnancy develops outside the uterus, typically in a fallopian tube. This is called an ectopic pregnancy, and it can be life-threatening if not treated promptly. Abortion pills will not treat this condition. An ultrasound confirms the location of your pregnancy to ensure your safety.

3. It’s important to confirm viability.

An ultrasound can detect whether your pregnancy is progressing normally and check for a fetal heartbeat. If there’s no heartbeat or development, you may be having a miscarriage and could avoid a procedure that isn’t medically necessary.

Free and confidential ultrasounds in Arizona

We provide confirmation ultrasounds at no cost to you. Our medical and patient services team will walk you through each step—providing information, compassion, and holistic care without judgment. Whether you're exploring abortion, parenting, or adoption, we’re here to help you make an informed decision.

Schedule your appointment today

If you think you might be pregnant, don’t wait. Schedule an ultrasound today to confirm your pregnancy and learn more about your options. We're here for you—no matter what you decide.

Can Pregnant Women Eat Cheetos?

Fri, 23 May 2025 12:22:30 GMT

Can Pregnant Women Eat Cheetos?

Everyone knows about the unusual things that many women crave while pregnant. (If you read our last article, you know ranch dressing is one craving.) Whether it be pickles and peanut butter or eating two gallons of ice cream a day, it’s fun to laugh about when it’s not happening to you. But now you’re pregnant, and you’re starting to miss eating certain foods that you could once consume without any worry. It may even be foods you never cared to eat before you were pregnant! One of these bizarre food cravings may be Cheetos. We’re here to answer the question you are asking: can pregnant women eat Flamin’ Hot Cheetos? To start off with, let’s look at why you may be having this desire for spicy food.

Why Do I Crave Cheetos?

Pregnancy cravings can be caused by a number of things, although there is no definite science behind it all. Food cravings typically begin during the first trimester and peak in the second trimester. However, they can happen anytime during pregnancy, and there is no scientific evidence to confirm exactly why. (2)

Despite this, many researchers have tried. So why Cheetos? A 2014 study found that women may crave spicy food because they often feel hot, and spicy foods stimulate them to sweat and cool down. (5) However, this is just one of many theories, so look through the other options before you jump to conclusions about why you have a Hot Cheeto obsession.

These are the main reasons that many researchers speculate a pregnant woman experiences odd food desires:

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Are Cheetos Safe to Eat While I’m Pregnant?

Now that we know why you may be craving Cheetos right now, let’s look into if they are safe for you to eat or not. And, spoiler, you can stop holding your breath; the science shows that Cheetos, even Hot Cheetos, are OK to eat – in moderation.

What Are Cheetos Made Of?

Cheetos, like many processed foods, do contain some natural ingredients. Most Cheetos are made of around 30% natural ingredients, such as citric acid. (1) The rest, however, are synthetic food additives which enhance flavor and make the food last longer. (1) These additives may be unhealthy for your baby, and for you as well. Let’s look deeper into exactly what Cheetos contain.

Artificial Flavors

In 2018, the FDA banned six synthetic food flavorings because the chemicals have been shown to cause cancer in lab animals. Oftentimes, these chemicals are listed as “artificial flavors” on food labels. (4)

Artificial Coloring

Many artificial coloring additives have been banned in other countries. And there are studies that show they may impact behavior in children. For those reasons, they may be harmful to you and your unborn child during pregnancy. (4)

MSG

MSG is a flavor enhancer found in many foods, including Cheetos. What it does is replicate the umami flavor, which is basically a taste sensation similar to savory. Although it is valuable as a flavor enhancer, studies have shown that there are possible toxic effects related to it. (4)

What Are the Effects of Pregnant Women Eating Cheetos?

Despite the questionable contents of Cheetos listed above, you shouldn’t worry too much. The health of your unborn baby will not be hurt after a few handfuls of chips. Many healthcare providers agree that Cheetos/spicy foods are not the best meal options while pregnant. (1) But, good news, they are alright in moderation. (1)

However, there are some side effects that can come from eating your normal diet that are enhanced by pregnancy. Here are a few of the health issues you may need to consider before grabbing that next bag of Flamin’ Hot Cheetos:

Cause Heartburn

During the second and third trimesters of pregnancy, spicy foods are more likely to cause heartburn. The baby growing in you creates an increasing pressure on your abdomen, causing lower pressure on the esophageal sphincter. (That’s the area where your esophagus joins your stomach.) This makes acid reflux more common during this time. (5)

Worsen Morning Sickness

During the first trimester, hot foods can worsen morning sickness. Eating spicy snacks can trigger the release of stomach acid, making nausea and vomiting worse. (5) Since you and other pregnant women probably already experience all-day nausea, you might want to skip the spice.

Diarrhea

Spicy foods often cause stomach irritations and digestive issues. When you’re pregnant, the main concern with diarrhea is the possibility of dehydration. For this reason, if you are going to eat spicy foods you should increase your intake of fluids. Also, if you’ve never craved hot food before, it is best to start with milder types and consume less to build a tolerance before working up. (5)

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Alternative Options to Cheetos and How to Deal with Cravings

Now you know pregnant women can eat Hot Cheetos while carrying an unborn baby, by doing so in moderation. But perhaps you want to stop the cravings or avoid any negative side effects from eating Cheetos or any other odd junk food combinations. Read on for better healthy food alternatives to eat.

First off, the main way to prevent pregnancy cravings is to make sure you eat well-balanced meals throughout the day. (2) Also, if regulating a healthy diet is difficult to manage on your own, make sure you have a lot of emotional support. Whether that be from a partner, a friend, or a parent, having someone to encourage you can keep you mentally on track with your food goals.

Another good option which has been mentioned before is eating whatever you’re craving but in moderation. If you have it set up in your mind that you’re never allowed to eat a certain type of food, it makes it very difficult to control yourself once you do have it. (3) This prevents one thing leading to another when you allow yourself some indulgence.

These are the main reasons that many researchers speculate a pregnant woman experiences odd food desires:

Source: Family Health Centers of San Diego (6)

To recap, pregnant women can eat Cheetos, but they may experience heartburn, morning sickness and/or diarrhea. Eat in moderation and listen to your body. Now that you know what may be causing your strange craving for Cheetos and how to help it, hopefully, your mind is a bit more at ease. Being a new mom and trying to take care of the growing baby inside you can be confusing and stressful at times, but you’ve got this!

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Your Girlfriend is Pregnant

Fri, 23 May 2025 12:22:28 GMT

How to be there for your girl and your baby.

Your heart has just stopped beating. The world has flipped off its axis. You think you may be either suffering a heart attack or hallucinating. Please let this be a dream. Your girlfriend texted that she is pregnant. Your life is about to change. Read on to find what to do if your girlfriend is pregnant.

Listen, you’re not the first man to encounter an unplanned pregnancy. In fact, according to the Guttmacher Institute, nearly half of the 6.1 million pregnancies in the United States were unintended (1). You can feel your fight or flight response kicking in. But truly, the best way to handle this is to breathe, relax, and research. You and your partner need to be calm so you can make an informed decision.

How to Respond to my Pregnant Girlfriend

There are many different ways to respond to this situation. Your first reaction may be to consider this the end of the world. Give yourself a moment to panic; life as you know it is going to change forever, and you have big decisions to make. But also know that you have options.

Most expectant fathers experience a range of emotions. These vary from determination to be a good father, to panic and anger... sometimes within the span of a minute. As the father of the baby, you are likely reliving the past, wishing you had prevented this unexpected pregnancy. But beating yourself up about it is not going to change it. You have to be a solid support for your girl, especially in the next few days.

Fluctuating emotions aside, the very best thing you can do in this difficult time is to be supportive of the expectant mother. The first step of this process is to listen to your girlfriend. As a male, your knee-jerk reaction is going to be to offer up all kinds of solutions, but that is not your job. From the moment she missed her period, you can pretty well bet her mind has not stopped racing. The best thing for you to do in this moment is to extend a comforting hand and listen.

How to Determine the Best Option for You and Your Pregnant Girlfriend

In the end, you both are going to have to make a decision. You cannot simply be passive, letting your girlfriend decide what to do next. You are the father of the child and you have just as much responsibility for this new life. If you want to keep the baby, man up and tell her. Even if this opinion conflicts with her own, at least you can both become aware of where you stand.

While you’re discussing your options, the first thing you should do is research. The most important thing to do is to gather accurate information.

If you decide you can’t keep the baby, abortion is not the only option. Adoption specialists will give you plenty of resources and support through the process. A simple search in Google will reveal the available adoption consultants in your area.

If your reasons for not keeping the baby are financial, it’s a good idea to consider alternate resources. It’s no secret that children are expensive, but there are many programs that exist to help (2). Visiting a pregnancy clinic will help you find these resources. “Pregnancy Resource Centers offer counseling, medical services and may be able to help you secure local financial resources in your community” (3). These community resources can help support you through your girlfriend’s early pregnancy and beyond. Pregnancy clinics are also completely confidential and do not require insurance.

Want more info about financial programs?

Check out our article about financial resources coming soon.

What Will a Visit to a Pregnancy Clinic with my Pregnant Girlfriend Look Like?

If nothing else, you may find that visiting a pregnancy clinic brings you peace of mind. You will have specialists there to provide you support in a time where you may feel absolutely lost.

There, your girlfriend can take one of the free urine pregnancy tests to verify her pregnancy. The pregnancy hormone human chorionic gonadotropin (HCG) will register on the test, confirming the pregnancy (4). The staff there will help guide you through your pregnancy options. Their insight will help you determine the important questions to consider.

You should go to this prenatal visit with your girlfriend. Even if personal questions about your girlfriend’s last period make you squirm, your support is essential. You may find that the pregnancy clinic offers great resources for young fathers, as well.

The clinic will also provide a free ultrasound, a great resource for new parents. Hearing your baby’s heartbeat for the first time is an experience like none other. The ultrasound is an important step to take before you make your final decision. There are also classes parents can attend throughout the pregnancy. Attending these classes, either in-person or online, earns you vouchers. You then apply these vouchers to mom and baby items, like diapers, outfits, and other good things. The courses you take will help supply you with the information you need to determine your next steps with confidence.

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As you come to a final decision, consider every point of view, even that of your unborn child. You and your girlfriend have created a precious life together, a life that is now your responsibility as a couple. There are resources readily available for you to use, from financial resources to support groups.

You are not alone. It takes a village to raise a child, and you have access to that village. This may be one of the hardest things you have had to do. But it is a decision only you and your girl can make. So stand tall, take a deep breath, and get ready to be the strongest you have ever been, for your girl and for your baby.

You’ve got this.

Worried about how to break the news?

Stay tuned for our next article:

“How to tell your parents your girlfriend is pregnant” Coming Soon!

Sources

Guttmacher Institute. (2019, January). Unintended Pregnancy in the United States.
https://www.guttmacher.org/fact-sheet/unintended-pregnancy-united-states
Go Fund Me. (2021, November 9). Financial Help for Pregnant Women: Three Ways to Get Assistance. https://www.gofundme.com/c/blog/financial-help-pregnant-women
American Pregnancy Association. (2021). Financial Help for Pregnant Women. https://americanpregnancy.org/options-for-unplanned-pregnancy/financial-help-for-pregnant-women/
American Pregnancy Association. (2021). What is HCG? https://americanpregnancy.org/getting-pregnant/hcg-levels/

Co-Parenting Counseling

Fri, 23 May 2025 12:22:27 GMT

Parenting is difficult. Your values and personal upbringing influence the way you raise your child. Parenting with your ex can be hard. If you’re having a challenging time co-parenting, counseling may help you.

Co-Parenting Defined

Co-Parenting is a term that fits many relationships. Though often used to describe divorced parents, this term applies to parents who have never been married before. If you and your partner are no longer together, co-parenting may be the best method to raise your child. Your priority is your child, and research shows that kids benefit from having both their mother and father in their lives.

“Unless your family has faced serious issues such as domestic violence or substance abuse, co-parenting—having both parents play an active role in their children’s daily lives—is the best way to ensure that all your kids’ needs are met and enable them to retain close relationships with both parents.” (1)

As a father, your duty is to support your children. That means providing them with an environment in which their needs are met. You have a duty to meet the needs of your child, whether that be through child support or joint custody.

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Co-Parenting Counseling Tips

Creating a good relationship with your child’s mother may not be an easy task. Joint custody can be stressful, angering, and exhausting. Sometimes it may feel difficult to find common ground, especially if the relationship ended poorly. However, maintaining a positive relationship is important, for the sake of your children. Here are some tips that will help you create a healthy relationship with your child’s mother.

Create a Co-Parenting Plan

Of course there are aspects of your parenting plan that you and your ex do not agree on. When you are not seeing eye-to-eye, take a step back. Creating a parenting plan keeps everyone on the same page. Here are a few things to keep in mind as you create your plan:

Consider your child’s best interests as the primary goals. Every kid is unique and each stage of life is different. Understanding your child’s needs helps you decide what kind of child custody will work best for you child.
Creating a flexible parenting schedule that works for your family . This will help ease your child’s transition between separate homes and lifestyles.
Go over your child support requirements. Child support requirements may be decided by a court order. Open communication will ensure you are on the same page when it comes to financial requirements.
Remember this is not a win-lose situation. These decisions must be made in the best interest of the child (2). When your child is safe and well-adjusted, everyone wins.

These are important pieces to consider when making your parenting plan. Remember that different phases of life come with different challenges, so your parenting plan may have to adjust to fit.

Sustain a Positive Co-Parenting Relationship

A positive relationship between parents is one of the most important things in a child’s life. Kids see everything. They are astute observers and are able to detect a high conflict atmosphere. So it is important that you and your ex are diligent in maintaining a positive relationship. Here are some tips:

Set aside your negative emotions. Let them go. It will only hinder your relationship with your ex, which will affect your child. Make it a point not to argue in front of your child, or they will begin to feel as though they are in the middle of your conflict (1).
Cultivate healthy communication skills. Never use your child as a messenger. If you need to communicate with your ex, do so in an effective, polite way. Creating a business-like relationship can help set the standard of communication between you. This will help create a safe space where you can discuss the needs of your child without involving them (1).
Learn conflict resolution skills. These skills include respect, learning to let the small stuff go, and compromise. These aren’t easy to learn, but they are important in maintaining a positive relationship.

Seek Co-Parenting Counseling

If you are having a difficult time with co-parenting, reach out to professional help. There are plenty of resources available for you to use.

One of these resources is your local pregnancy resource center (PRC). There, you can find all kinds of support that will help you navigate this difficult time. Support for expectant fathers does exist, and your PRC can help you find it. These resources include:

Free parenting courses and programs that reward you with supplies for taking classes.
Government funding if you find yourself struggling to manage child support.
Help creating a co-parenting plan.
Support groups for young fathers. These are useful if you’d like to find other people who are experiencing similar situations.
Mediation to help you resolve conflict with your former partner.

The importance of support from friends and family cannot be overstated. Reach out to those in your support circle for help creating a plan and maintaining your relationships.

Haven’t told your parents about your girlfriend’s pregnancy?

Check out our article for tips on breaking the news.

Child Support FAQs

One major factor of co-parenting includes child support.

Who pays child support?

Child support is a requirement of the non-custodial parent, who tends to be the father. If the parents opt for joint custody, the court decides how much each parent is required to pay (3).

What are child support rates based on?

The court considers a couple different factors when deciding child support rates. Typically they account for the child’s specific needs, resources available, and the parent’s ability to meet the child support (3).

How do I change child support payments?

Child support rates aren’t easy to change. If you need to modify payments, you need to submit a request to the judge. Only the court can change the rates, but if the parents both agree on the change, it’s usually a fairly quick process (3).

What happens if I miss a payment?

Child support is important to follow through on. If you don’t live up to your required payments, the courts will become involved. This can result in consequences like jail time, seizure of property, suspension of driver’s license, and more.

If you’re having a hard time making your child support payments, there are groups like the United Way that can get you in touch with pro bono legal support. These organizations can help you get the paperwork you need and may be able to offer you legal support as well (4). Contact your local Pregnancy Resource Center to get in touch with some of these resources. Other considerations to make are to examine your lifestyle, make a budget, and reduce your expenses. Your local PRC can offer you help with budgeting as well.

Need Help with Child Support?

We have resources for you here at Help4Her .

You need to be involved in your child’s life. Parent-child relationships are some of the most important relationships we carry with us. If you are co-parenting, you need to commit to consistent communication with your former partner. A positive relationship will ensure your child grows up feeling as loved and supported as possible. That way, everybody wins.

Sources

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https://www.helpguide.org/articles/parenting-family/co-parenting-tips-for-divorced-parents.htm
Creating a Perfect Parenting Plan in 6 Steps. (n.d.). Our Family Wizard.
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Parker, Wayne. (2020, May 29). What Dads Need to Know About How Child Support Works. VeryWell Family. https://www.verywellfamily.com/what-to-know-about-child-support-1269626
Fay, Bill. (n.d.). Child Support Payment Financial Help. Debt.org.
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Stories Behind Abortion

Fri, 23 May 2025 12:22:26 GMT

Abortion stories are not easy to tell.

Many women’s abortion experiences have gone untold. Until now. Micki bravely agreed to share her story. Read on for stories behind abortion.

22, newly divorced, and almost homeless. Micki went to a party to distract herself. Her two kids, ages 5 and 2 were with their fathers, her exs. If you just did the math you know that Micki was a teen mom at ages 16 and 19.

After a one-night stand with a Marine at the party, Micki was pregnant.

“What is my family going to think when they find out I’m pregnant again?”

She didn’t tell her parents. Instead, she told her best friend about her unplanned pregnancy. Micki’s friend asked, “How can you support a new baby if you can’t take care of your other kids?”

Micki didn’t know how she could keep the baby. She dismissed the thought of adoption. She felt she could not give up her baby once she gave birth, based on how attached she felt to her other kids immediately after birth. Micki was a nurturing mama bear. To this day her kids, now grown, turn to her when they need to talk.

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Time to decide

Micki decided to have an abortion and refused to think about it anymore. The one thing that worried Micki most was her fertility. Her friend had had 5 abortions, and in her 6th pregnancy, they told her another abortion would harm her fertility so she had the baby. (Drs may have been concerned about cervical insufficiency, aka cervical incompetence. “Prior pregnancy termination is also a major risk factor for cervical insufficiency.” 1)

The surgical abortion

The day came and the doctor talked about how they would dilate her cervix, insert the spoon-like instrument and scrape her uterus. Afterward, they would “examine the contents of your pregnancy.”

Nothing in the clinical description of abortion prepared her for the experience. It was awful. She was not prepared for the loud suction noise or the painful cramps. (They didn’t give her pain medication. Afterward, she took ibuprofen.) Micki knew she was supposed to lie still, but it hurt so bad she started to put her hand on her stomach.

“No, no, no,” corrected the doctor, “I don’t want to tear your uterus.”

“It’s barbaric,” Micki reflected on her abortion experience. “Physically and emotionally traumatic.” She is grateful she did not have complications from her abortion, but she tried to push it out of her mind and move on.

“It just eats away at you, especially if you don’t deal with it.”

Micki regrets having an abortion. She wishes she had gone to a pregnancy center for help.

“Abortion is a way to hide what you’ve done. It doesn’t just get rid of the problem - it causes all new problems.”

Years later, in her 30s Micki was part of a support group for those who had an abortion. They encouraged her to name her baby. Micki suspected her 7 ½ week old baby was a girl, so she named her Danielle Nichole. It was difficult but also healing to share stories behind abortion.

Now, she wishes she could talk to other women considering abortion. You could potentially regret this for the rest of your life.

Does Micki’s abortion story resonate with you? You don’t have to be single, 22, and almost homeless to tell your story or get help. Instead of living with regret, reach out for help. Help4Her will support you regardless of the circumstances when your baby was conceived. We’ll talk to you about your specific fears and needs and provide emotional and physical support. We’ve helped countless women in difficult circumstances. Some women have relational difficulties with baby daddies, or parents. Others have financial pressures and housing insecurities. Still others feel this baby is coming at a bad time with school or work.

All of these circumstances are hard, but not hopeless. If Micki had reached out, she would have learned about the free diapers, food banks, housing solutions, and more. Help4Her provides free confidential services and refers women to local community resources as well.

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Source

*Shared with permission from Micki

Anum, E. A., Brown, H. L., & Strauss, J. F. (2010, July 19). Health disparities in risk for cervical insufficiency. OUP Academic. Retrieved May 10, 2022, from https://doi.org/10.1093/humrep/deq177

How To Connect To The Father Of The Baby

Fri, 23 May 2025 12:22:25 GMT

You have taken the pregnancy test and found yourself to be pregnant. You share the news with your parents. Maybe with a close friend. You need to talk to the father of the baby. This may be a nerve-wracking proposition, but in this article, we’ll give some tips on how to talk with him about the future. We will discuss how to prepare yourself to deal with toxic and supportive responses.

Process and Prepare

Right now you may have a storm of emotions washing over you. The feelings of shock, denial, anger, and grief can be overwhelming. These are natural. You will want to process your feelings before talking with the father of the baby. This journey of grief over the loss of innocence and the weight of the new reality you find yourself in can be perilous.

When you tell the father, remember that he is at a different point in this journey. His reaction may be similar to yours: shock, denial, anger, etc. His timeframe to process these feelings will be unique to him, not the same as you. Be understanding as he proceeds on this path, and be prepared to give answers and directions as to what is next. Having a strong relationship with your parents or other trusted adults will help you to be prepared. The best approach is to have a plan of action and affirmative statements before talking with him.

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His Response To The News

Every pregnancy story is as unique as the individuals who comprise them. When you talk with the father of the baby, remember that he is not you. He has an upbringing and internal compass specific to him. He is male. Depending on his age, he will develop emotionally at a separate pace than you. He is not pregnant. The physical and emotional reality of the pregnancy is much more personal to you. This does not mean he does not care or is incapable of empathy and concern. It means that his response to the news and the journey of the pregnancy will be his own.

One way to share the news of the pregnancy is to share an ultrasound picture (or video). Often, seeing an ultrasound can help a guy process the reality of pregnancy. An ultrasound moves the baby from an idea to a reality. An ultrasound can help a father-to-be bond with the unborn baby .

Toxic Response To Pregnancy

It is possible that when you talk with the baby’s father you will receive a very negative response. In fact, that response may be downright toxic. In order to prepare for this there are a few things to remember and be prepared to stick to as non-negotiable.

Define roles - state early that you are making decisions in this pregnancy. While he is welcome to be a positive participant in the pregnancy, the final say will lay with you and your parents.

Set boundaries - you will set the level of involvement in your pregnancy. In a healthy relationship, an involved father is a wonderful thing. A toxic relationship or toxic response will require that you are steadfast in your beliefs and decisions about your pregnancy.

Establish responsibilities - the birth and care of a child will involve many responsibilities. Set the expectations for yourself and the father of the baby. Unspoken expectations will lead to disappointments, frustrations, and anger.

Seek legal protections - some actions and attitudes may require legal interventions to protect you and your baby. Read more about what to do if your boyfriend wants you to end your pregnancy.

You are not alone.

Hear from other women facing a boyfriend who wants an abortion.

Supportive Response To Pregnancy

Hopefully, when you talk with the father of your baby, he and his family will be supportive of your decision to carry your baby. Even if he is supportive, there will still need to be established roles, responsibilities, and boundaries between you two. Clear expectations will help prevent interruptions in your relationship. Work to foster a positive relationship with the father’s family. They will be grandparents soon, and you can expect them to be part of your child’s life in the future.

Parents can have their own expectations. In some situations, parents may anticipate that marriage will follow childbirth. Marriage can be a wonderful way to strengthen the bond between mother and father and establish a supportive and loving home for the child. But, it must be what you want, and what the baby’s father wants. If you believe that you are being coerced into marriage, there are services available to help you protect your freedom.

Marriage is not the only option available for a positive parenting experience. Some couples may choose to co-parent instead. It is possible to have a healthy parenting relationship with the father of the baby without having to have a romantic one. When you co-parent, the mutual focus of raising a thriving child can unite the mother and father in a common goal. This goal requires open communication, clarity of purpose, and mutually agreed-upon objectives. Parenting is challenging, even for married couples. A good attitude and communication will go a long way to a successful parenting relationship.

Help Him Prepare For Fatherhood

Just as you may be discovering how to be a mother, the young man who is the father of your baby will be discovering how to be a dad. A great place to start is at a local Pregnancy Resource Center.

Both of you can benefit from a listening ear. Plus, you can learn about relationships, childbirth, and parenting through courses. And that’s not all the resources that are available to you at your local center. You both may need help with finding employment or continuing education so that you can help provide for your baby. Help4Her can guide you. Being prepared and proactive will help ensure a good relationship with the father and a healthy pregnancy for you and the baby.

Sources

Summary, A GoodTherapy.org News. “Do Boys and Girls Express Their Emotions Differently?” GoodTherapy.org Therapy Blog, 23 Oct. 2013, https://www.goodtherapy.org/blog/do-boys-and-girls-express-emotions-differently-12261
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Forced marriage. The AHA Foundation. (2022, October 17). Retrieved October 28, 2022, from https://www.theahafoundation.org/forced-marriage/

Is Your Daughter Pregnant ?

Fri, 23 May 2025 12:22:23 GMT

Is Your Daughter Pregnant?

“I’m pregnant.” Two words you never expected to hear from your teenage daughter. Words that have consequences which will change your relationship with her forever. Teen pregnancies have been declining in the recent past to record lows (1). But the latest Office of Population Affairs records 158,043 births to teens ages 15-19 years old (2). This means that if your daughter has shared with you that she is pregnant, you are not alone. Wondering What To Do If Your Daughter Is Pregnant? Keep reading.

What to Actually Do if Your Daughter is Pregnant

Have you processed the initial revelation of your daughter’s pregnancy? We’ll cover the stages of grief you may go through before you come to accept the truth of the situation. You’ll equip yourself with resources to educate everyone involved. You’ll locate the services necessary to ensure a healthy mother, baby, and birth. We have gathered some steps and suggestions for you and your daughter. Here are three things to do today: Love, Listen and Learn.

Love both your daughter and the developing baby which she carries. In the Bible, the apostle Peter instructs us, “Above all, love each other deeply, because love covers over a multitude of sins.” (1 Peter 4:8 NIV) Despite what other feelings you experience, let love be at the forefront. It helps you and her smooth the bumps in the road of this challenging expedition.

Listen to everyone involved. Communication and support are key to a successful pregnancy. Good communication integrates all participating parties. Your daughter, the father, and his family will all have something to say. Have an open ear and open heart to hear what they wish to share.

Grief that Your Daughter is Pregnant

When you hear that your daughter is pregnant, there will be a variety of emotions that you process. Anger. Disappointment. Confusion. These are all part of a larger feeling of grief. The pregnancy of your teenage daughter may cause a sense of loss. For the daughter, it is grief for the loss of possible future plans. How will she complete high school? Is college still available as an option? She will have concerns about the perception her peers have of her. It is natural to worry that she will lose some of those friends because of her pregnancy. Becoming a mother can raise questions about future romantic relationships. Will being a young single mother affect her future dating prospects?

As her mother, you will be contemplating the loss of your daughter's opportunities too. From experience, you recognize the challenges of establishing yourself in the world. This extra challenge will make the transition into successful adulthood more difficult. You may have concerns about what other moms think of you. It is possible they see your daughter's situation as a reflection on your parenting, and this fear will make social interactions difficult.

Finally, there is the grief of her father. There has always been a special relationship between father and daughter. In most men’s eyes, their daughter will always be “daddy’s little girl.” Your daughter’s pregnancy is proof that your daughter has lost her girlish innocence. She is transitioning to womanhood sooner than expected. Sometimes this expedited transition will interrupt the father-daughter relationship.

Stages Of Grief

The American Psychological Association provides a framework of coping strategies when we grieve. These five strategies are common but not universal. They are denial, anger, bargaining, depression, and finally acceptance (3). You may experience all or some of these stages. Preparing for them will help you help your daughter navigate the upcoming pregnancy.

Acceptance that Your Daughter is Pregnant - A Strategic Approach

The news of a daughter’s pregnancy will initiate a series of emotions and corresponding actions. A thoughtful, planned response will help to mitigate those emotions. It will give guidance to everyone on how to navigate the details of your daughter’s pregnancy. Details such as who, what, when, where, and why can serve as guideposts for you in this process.

Who

The first question will often be “Who is the father?” In most situations there is a boyfriend involved, but not always. You must prepare yourself for whatever the truth of the situation may be. Is the father or his family aware of the pregnancy? Knowing details about the father will help towards a healthy pregnancy and birth.

What

If the father knows and if his family knows, what were their reactions to the news? Knowing the reaction to this news helps you plan for possible rough times. Was the news met with negative reactions? Are you alone in guiding this young couple through the upcoming months and beyond? What is the attitude of the father and his family? Knowing their attitude, as well as your own, will go a long way to helping your daughter have a healthy experience.

When

Determining the "when" of conception is vital information. It is certain to help your daughter make informed healthcare decisions. Both for her healthcare and the development of her baby. Many women journal their cycle dates, but that is not enough. An ultrasound can establish the age of the pregnancy - more on that in the next section.

Where

Are you overwhelmed thinking about unplanned pregnancy expenses? Medical expenses often feel like a barrier to getting the help your daughter needs. Most communities have Pregnancy Resource Centers which will help you and your daughter. Pregnancy Centers like Help 4 Her bridge the gap with cost-free services.

Community Help

We provide ultrasounds , counseling, life skills classes, parenting classes, and other resources.

A PRC is an excellent first stop on this exciting journey.

(If you’re not in the Maricopa County or Pima County area, a simple search for local pregnancy centers near me should bring up results. Or search your location on optionline or CareNet .)

Why

There are many “whys” when you learn that your daughter is pregnant. “Why her?” “Why me?” “Why now?” Some of these reasons may not be answered. Regardless, the simple fact is that God is the author of life. Each life, regardless of origin, is precious to him and has a purpose ( Psalm 139:13-16 ). It is God’s place to determine when a new life begins. He is not surprised by the unexpected reality of your daughter’s pregnancy.

What’s Next

One emotion we have not mentioned so far can be the most important: joy. The joy of being a grandparent should be considered in this process and will help refocus negative thoughts to positive ones. You have probably seen a grandparent out in public with one of those shirts that read, “If I had known grandkids were so much fun, I would have had them first.” It appears a long way away today, but there will be a day when you, your daughter, and your grandchild will enjoy one another and experience joy. You probably didn't expect to be a grandparent so soon, but grandparents everywhere say it’s fun.

Sources

About Teen Pregnancy, https://www.cdc.gov/teenpregnancy/about/index.htm
Trends in Teen Pregnancy and Childbearing; https://opa.hhs.gov/adolescent-health/reproductive-health-and-teen-pregnancy/trends-teen-pregnancy-and-childbearing
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The Justice Foundation. (n.d.). Center Against Forced Abortions (CAFA). The Justice Foundation. Retrieved October 25, 2022, from https://thejusticefoundation.org/cafa/

Pregnancy Quiz

Fri, 23 May 2025 12:22:21 GMT

Pregnancy Quiz

TAKE THIS ONLINE PREGNANCY QUIZ

If you are wondering, “Am I pregnant?” you can read the signs that your own body is already giving you.

Please take this early pregnancy quiz for help.

Another way to determine if you are pregnant is to take an over-the-counter pregnancy test. Home pregnancy tests claim to be 99% accurate but there is a slight chance that they can be wrong, which is called a “false-positive.” A false-positive may result if the fertilized egg is no longer attached to the uterine lining or from side affects from fertility drugs or problems with your ovaries. There is also a chance for a false-negative result. This can happen if you take the test too early, if you use the test kit incorrectly or you have diluted urine. Reading and following the directions precisely will reduce the possibility of this happening. Help 4 Her will give you a free and confidential clinical grade pregnancy test with more accuracy.

Thank you for taking this quiz. We hope that it has helped you and given you some of the information for which you are looking. If you would like more information.

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1 https://www.mayoclinic.org/healthy-lifestyle/getting-pregnant/in-depth/symptoms-of-pregnancy/art-20043853

2 https://www.webmd.com/baby/guide/pregnancy-am-i-pregnant#1

3 https://americanpregnancy.org/getting-pregnant/early-pregnancy-symptoms/

4 https://www.medicalnewstoday.com/articles/290414#12-early-signs-of-pregnancy

5 https://www.marchofdimes.org/pregnancy/common-discomforts-of-pregnancy.aspx#

Pregnancy Confirmation Ultrasound - Free Women's Clinics in Arizona

Fri, 23 May 2025 12:22:20 GMT

The main reason you should get an ultrasound is simply to see how far along you are in your pregnancy. With this safe and accurate procedure you will also be able to detect the fetal heartbeat, determine the baby’s age and approximate due date. One of the most exciting services we offer at Help4Her is a FREE ultrasound referral.

WHY SHOULD I GET AN ULTRASOUND?

Confirm pregnancy
Detect the fetal heartbeat
Determine the age of the baby and due date
Pinpoint the location of the pregnancy (normal or ectopic pregnancy)

WHAT IS AN ULTRASOUND?

An ultrasound is simply a method of creating an image with the use of high frequency sound waves, so high they cannot be heard by human ears. The sound waves bounce back to the ultrasound equipment to form the image on a monitor. The procedure is totally safe and painless for both you and your baby.

ABDOMINAL ULTRASOUND

At Help4Her you will receive a FREE abdominal ultrasound in which our medical professional will pass the wand over your belly to transmit the image to the ultrasound monitor.

TRANSVAGINAL ULTRASOUND

There is another ultrasound procedure, in most cases performed by a gynecologist, called a transvaginal ultrasound. According to Healthline.com , “A transvaginal ultrasound, also called an endovaginal ultrasound, is a type of pelvic ultrasound used by doctors to examine female reproductive organs…This is an internal examination. Unlike a regular abdominal or pelvic ultrasound, where the ultrasound wand (transducer) rests on the outside of the pelvis, this procedure involves your doctor or a technician inserting an ultrasound probe about 2 or 3 inches into your vaginal canal.”

A SAFE AND HEALTHY PREGNANCY

One very important reason you should get an ultrasound is to determine the location of the pregnancy. If the pregnancy is not in the right place there could be a problem. According to MedLinePlus.gov , “An ectopic pregnancy is a pregnancy that occurs outside the womb (uterus). It may be fatal to the mother.

FREE AND CONFIDENTIAL

A great starting point may be for you to make an appointment for your ultrasound—it’s FREE and confidential and our caring staff can answer any question you may have. Before your ultrasound you will meet with one of our advocates to go over your medical history and discuss all of your concerns. At Help4Her we are here to help you with your pregnancy.

1 – https://www.healthline.com/health/transvaginal-ultrasound

2 – https://medlineplus.gov/ency/article/000895.htm

Pregnancy Tests

Fri, 23 May 2025 12:22:19 GMT

If you think you may be pregnant your next step should be scheduling a Pregnancy Test from any Help4Her Affiliate Locations. You do NOT have to go through this process alone. At Help4her we can help you deal with the results, no matter what they are, in a manner that is best for you and your situation. We have compassion for you and want to help you in any way we can.

FIRST THINGS FIRST — Am I Pregnant?

If you think you may be pregnant it is important to know about the changes taking place in your body that may indicate pregnancy. Remember every woman is different and common signs of pregnancy may or may not pertain to your situation.

Some common symptoms of early pregnancy include:

Missed period
Nausea
Vomiting
Breast tenderness
Frequent urination
Fatigue

For a complete list of pregnancy symptoms click HERE .

How Soon Should I Take a Pregnancy Test?

According to Healthline, “You should wait to take a pregnancy test until the week after your missed period for the most accurate result.

If you don’t want to wait until you’ve missed your period, you should wait at least one or two weeks after you had sex. If you are pregnant, your body needs time to develop detectable levels of HCG. This typically takes seven to 12 days after successful implantation of an egg.

You may receive an inaccurate result if the test is taken too early in your cycle.”

Find out the earliest you can take a pregnancy test. The sooner you know, the better.

According to WebMD the only way to know for sure if you are pregnant is “by taking a pregnancy test ”

When you call for an appointment we will answer your questions and provide you with help you need every step of the way.

Should I take a home pregnancy test?

According to a healthy lifestyle article on the Mayo Clinic website, “ Taking a home pregnancy test can be nerve-wracking , especially if you’re not sure you can trust the results. Know when and how to take a home pregnancy test — as well as some of the possible pitfalls of home testing.”

If you are not sure when the best time is to take the home pregnancy test and take the test too early, check the test results too soon, use diluted urine or have been taking fertility drugs or medications containing HCG, there is a chance the results will be inaccurate.

Home pregnancy tests including such brand names as First Response, ClincialGaurd, Clearblue, Pregmate, New Choice and Wondfo, advertise to be 99% accurate.

National pharmacies and retail stores offer generic and store brand pregnancy tests including, Walgreen’s One Step, Target’s Early Results Pregnancy Test-Up&Up, CVS Early Result Pregnancy Test and Wal-Mart’s Equate Early Result Pregnancy Test.

All over the counter tests recommend if you think you are pregnant you should contact your healthcare provider. That is where Help4Her comes in. We can help you confirm your pregnancy and discuss your options for the future.

How do pregnancy tests work?

There are two basic kinds of pregnancy tests, the first uses urine and can be purchased over the counter, and the second test uses a blood sample and is administered in a doctor’s office or clinic. Both tests measure the level of the hormone hGC, human chorionic gonadotropin that indicates a pregnancy.

According to Medicinet.com, “ hCG is made when a fertilized egg implants in the uterus . This usually happens about six days after the egg and sperm merge. But studies show that in up to 10 percent of women, implantation does not occur until much later, after the first day of the missed period. The amount of hCG rapidly builds up in your body with each passing day you are pregnant.”

Clinical pregnancy tests are more accurate than over the counter home tests.

The primary reason a clinical pregnancy test is more accurate than an over the counter home test is the experience and frequency in which the clinic administers tests. At Help4Her we have administered thousands of tests and are constantly updating our kits for optimum freshness and accuracy.

There are many variables that lead to inaccurate readings from home tests. At Help4Her we do our best to eliminate those variables so you know for sure whether or not you are pregnant.

Citations:

1- https://www.webmd.com/baby/guide/pregnancy-am-i-pregnant#1-2

2- https://www.mayoclinic.org/healthy-lifestyle/getting-pregnant/in-depth/home-pregnancy-tests/art-20047940

3- https://www.medicinenet.com/pregnancy_test/article.htm#are_there_different_types_of_pregnancy_tests

4- https://www.healthline.com/health/pregnancy/five-signs-to-take-pregnancy-test#when-to-test

Am I Pregnant? Pregnancy Signs & Symptoms

Fri, 23 May 2025 12:22:18 GMT

Have you been experiencing bodily changes? Do you think you may be pregnant? This can be an exciting time but also a puzzling time. To add to the confusion, many pregnancy signs and symptoms can have causes unlinked to pregnancy.

We have compiled this list of questions to determine whether you may be pregnant. Please contact a Help4Her Affiliate Location if you have any other questions or would like to make an appointment for a free and confidential consultation.

Early signs of pregnancy tend to differ from one woman to the next. To understand if you may be pregnant, take a pregnancy test as soon as possible. Paying attention to early symptoms of pregnancy is important because these symptoms can start as early as your first month of pregnancy. With that in mind, consider these 10 questions about the early signs of pregnancy:

Have you missed a period?

A missed period is a common early sign of pregnancy. Many pregnant women begin seeking answers because they know they’re late for their next period. If your period is over a week late, you may consider this a possible indicator of pregnancy, and as other pregnancy symptoms start to appear, you may find that this symptom was the first you experienced. However, a late period may not be an accurate sign if you typically have irregular menstrual cycles, as you could simply have a late period that month.

If you are currently having your period, then it is most likely that you are not pregnant, as the lining of your uterus is shedding through blood it had stored up before ovulation. If it’s been more than a month since your last menstrual period, then you might be pregnant, as your endometrial lining could have, at that point, received a fertilized egg and is now working to support it. Tracking your period is not the only way to determine whether or not you’re pregnant, but this, along with a few other symptoms, tends to be a good indicator.

Have you been feeling frequently nauseous?

Nausea is another of the common early pregnancy symptoms in the first trimester and may or may not be accompanied by vomiting. Nausea and vomiting of pregnancy is a common condition. It can occur any time during the day, even though it’s often called “morning sickness.” Nausea and vomiting of pregnancy usually doesn’t harm the fetus, but it can affect your life, including your ability to work or go about your normal everyday activities. There are safe treatment options that can make you feel better and keep your symptoms from getting worse. Nausea and vomiting of pregnancy usually starts before 9 weeks of pregnancy. For most women, it goes away by 14 weeks of pregnancy. For some women, it lasts for several weeks or months. For a few women, it lasts throughout the pregnancy. Some women feel nauseated for a short time each day and might vomit once or twice. In more severe cases, nausea lasts several hours each day and vomiting occurs more frequently. (3). The severity can differ from person to person. It isn’t totally clear what the cause is of morning sickness, but it may be due to hormonal changes.

 Do you have swollen, tender breasts or nipples?

The American Pregnancy Association (APA) reports that this is one of the most common symptoms of pregnancy. “Changes to the breasts can start as early as 1 to 2 weeks after conception” (5). The APA also stated that about 17% of pregnant women surveyed reported breast changes as the first sign of pregnancy. This typically occurs in the early weeks of pregnancy but could occur up to four to six weeks in. Because of the increase in the amount of blood flow throughout this area, you may experience tingling, aching, and swelling/enlargement of the breast tissue, often leading to sore breasts. You may also notice the darkening of the areas surrounding the nipples. Once your body adjusts to your new hormonal changes, breast tenderness should subside.

Have you noticed spotting and cramping?

When the fertilized egg attaches to the lining of the uterus, this may cause light spotting and even mild cramping. WebMD calls this “implantation bleeding,” and it typically resembles a light period. This “occurs anywhere from 6 to 12 days after the egg is fertilized. The cramps resemble menstrual cramps, so some women mistake them and the bleeding for the start of their period.” However, there are some distinct differences. Some of the key differences include a smaller amount, shorter time, lighter color, and absence of clotting. The cramps pregnant women experience may seem similar to those during PMS. But implantation cramps are different—these cramps would be present even after you’ve missed your period. Other common early signs of pregnancy include leg cramping and back pain, typically in the lower back (7).

Do you have headaches more frequently?

Headaches are so common that this alone is not necessarily considered one of the first signs of pregnancy. In this case, you may also be experiencing lightheadedness or dizziness due to hormonal changes in your body. You should consider them in conjunction with other pregnancy symptoms you’re experiencing.

Are you experiencing strange food cravings and an increased appetite?

If you are pregnant, you may start to experience cravings for certain foods. Often, the foods you normally desire will not sound good to you. These food aversions and cravings may also be due to hormonal changes, along with changes in your senses. Your body is also working hard to build a new life, so of course, you’re experiencing an increased appetite! Be sure to fill up on healthy, pregnancy-approved snacks so your body will receive the energy it needs.

Are you going to the bathroom a lot?

With pregnancy, you may notice changes in your bladder sensitivity. This is a common pregnancy symptom and can be traced back to hormone changes, your growing uterus, and increased blood circulation to the pelvis. Because of these changes, you may find yourself making more frequent trips to the restroom.

Do you feel light-headed?

Feeling dizzy or light-headed, especially immediately after standing or changing your position quickly, can be a sign of pregnancy. Dizziness may be the result of a change in your blood volume and blood pressure, or it could be a deficiency in iron. Light-headedness can be caused by many different factors, so this symptom on its own is not considered a reliable sign of pregnancy. When paired with other symptoms, though, pregnancy could be something to consider.

Are you moody recently?

Sudden mood changes and fatigue are also attributable to hormonal changes. These changes could take place as early as the first month of pregnancy. This is because your body is producing a hormone called progesterone. This hormone supports pregnancy and is responsible for milk production in the breasts as well.

Are you feeling fatigued?

“You may feel fatigue early and late in pregnancy,” according to the March of Dimes. “Your body may be tired because it’s working hard to take care of your growing baby. Your body is making pregnancy hormones and you’re using a lot of energy, even when you sleep. You may have trouble sleeping at night because you’re uncomfortable or you need to get up to go to the bathroom. Later in pregnancy, leg cramps may wake you up at night” (14). The good news is that such high levels of fatigue are particularly strong in the early stages of pregnancy and will likely subside after the first trimester and then fluctuate through the entire pregnancy.

Are you experiencing sensitivity to smell or a metallic taste in your mouth?

Though there may be little scientific consensus on these, they are some of the earliest signs of pregnancy. This heightened sense of smell may also be one of the causes of nausea, as is the metallic taste in your mouth.

Have you been constipated or bloated?

This symptom can be very uncomfortable! If you’ve had fewer than three bowel movements in a week, you may be dealing with pregnancy constipation. Hormonal changes can be the culprit behind bloating and constipation.

Have you been experiencing increased heartburn?

This may affect more women in the later stages of pregnancy and is not really considered one of the signs of early pregnancy. However, it’s generally considered to stem from your increase in progesterone levels, so don’t rule it out, especially if it’s not something you normally experience.

Often thought of as the best way to determine if you’re pregnant, home urine tests claim to be 99% accurate. There is a slight chance you receive a positive result, even though you aren’t pregnant, which is called a “false-positive.” A false-positive may result if the fertilized egg is no longer attached to the uterine lining or from side effects from fertility drugs or problems with your ovaries. There is also a chance for a false-negative result. This can happen if you take the urine test too early, if you use the home test kit incorrectly, or if you have diluted urine. If you would like a pregnancy test call a Help4Her Affiliate Location for a free and confidential consultation.

In order for the pregnancy home test to get an accurate reading, you have to have enough HCG (human chorionic gonadotrophin) in your urine. This is the hormone released by the cells surrounding the growing embryo, which allows your body to realize it is pregnant. Reading and following the directions precisely will reduce the possibility of false negatives occurring. A Help4Her Affiliate Location will give you a free and confidential clinical grade pregnancy test and limited ultrasound.

Bleeding in the first trimester happens in 15 to 25 in 100 pregnancies. Light bleeding or spotting can occur 1 to 2 weeks after fertilization when the fertilized egg implants in the lining of the uterus. The cervix may bleed more easily during pregnancy because more blood vessels are developing in this area. It is not uncommon to have spotting or light bleeding after sexual intercourse or after a Pap test or pelvic exam.

Vaginal bleeding during pregnancy has many causes. Some are serious and others are not. Bleeding can occur early or later in pregnancy. Bleeding in early pregnancy is common. In many cases, it does not signal a major problem. Bleeding later in pregnancy can be more serious. Contact your obstetrician–gynecologist (ob-gyn) if you have any bleeding at any time during pregnancy.

Problems that can cause bleeding in early pregnancy include infection, early pregnancy loss, and ectopic pregnancy. (20)

If you are pregnant, don’t wait until you see a health care provider to begin taking prenatal vitamins. These vitamins contain several essential nutrients for you and your baby’s health, including folic acid, vitamin D, and calcium.

We hope that these questions helped you and gave you more knowledge about what you may be experiencing. If you would like more information, contact a Help4Her Affiliate Location.

If you’ve experienced any of these pregnancy signs and symptoms or have received a positive pregnancy test and want further information, give us a call. You do not have to go through this time in your life alone and your prenatal care is of the utmost importance. We’re here to help.

Disclaimer: This website and blog does not provide medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Content from this website and blog is not intended to be used for medical diagnosis or treatment. The information provided on this website is intended for general understanding only and is not intended to be a substitute for professional medical advice.

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Considering Abortion? Here’s the Info You Need

Fri, 23 May 2025 12:22:16 GMT

Are you pregnant? Do you think you may be pregnant? If so, you may find yourself wondering what your options are. At this point, you may begin looking for abortion information and wondering who to trust. The decisions you’re facing are stressful enough as it is. You need to know the risks, benefits, and alternatives of your choices. Otherwise, you can’t give informed consent for your reproductive health decisions. Our goal is to equip you with the facts about the abortion pill, and surgical abortion so you can make an informed decision about your pregnancy.

So how do we start? Well, first things first. You’ll want to confirm whether you’re pregnant or not.

Am I Pregnant? The Urine Test

A urine test will identify the pregnancy hormone, also known as human chorionic gonadotropin (hCG). They are highly accurate in their detection of hCG levels. But, if you took the test BEFORE the day you were supposed to get your period, you might not get an accurate result. The hCG concentration increases each day during early pregnancy. Now that time has gone by, you’ll get a more accurate reading.

Two Options for Urine Testing

Your first option is the home pregnancy test. These have been on the market for several decades and tend to be quite accurate. If you go this route, make sure your test is not expired and that you carefully follow the instructions.

Taking a pregnancy test can be nerve-wracking. Do you need moral support when you look for one or two pink lines? Rather than testing alone, get a free pregnancy test at a Help4Her Affiliate Location.

Going into a clinic for your urine test helps take away some of the stress of human error. Those at the clinic have supported others through this process many times before. You’ll have the assurance that knowledgeable people are helping you. Getting clinical testing is also an opportunity to gather more information in a safe, confidential setting.

Confirming Pregnancy

So let’s say you go to a clinic and take a test that is positive. You’ll probably be told that the test is positive, rather than being told that you’re pregnant. There are many factors involved in a positive reading, and you may wonder about the status of your pregnancy.

As effective as these tests are, there’s always the chance for error. That’s why you’ll want to confirm your pregnancy with an ultrasound. If you contact our office for a confidential appointment, we can refer you to a qualified ultrasound technician. This is one of the most important steps in your pregnancy.

Another thing to consider at this point is making an appointment with your physician. Don’t have a physician? No problem. A Help4Her Affiliate Location can help you find one right for you. If you don’t already have someone in mind, your physician can refer you to an OB/GYN. Since you’re sexually active, you’ll want to get tested for sexually transmitted infections (STIs).

Not Ready? Educate Yourself with Abortion Information

Many young women go through the steps already mentioned and, for one reason or another, do not feel ready to continue the pregnancy. The most important thing at this point is to gather all the abortion facts you can. This way, you can make an educated decision moving forward. You’re probably asking questions like “What is abortion?” “Is it different at each stage of pregnancy?” and “Are there any risks associated with abortion?” We’ll now take a look at some information on abortion to get a clearer picture.

Abortion Information and Facts

What is Abortion?

No article on abortion information would be complete without a definition. According to the CDC , “legal induced abortion” is “an intervention performed by a licensed clinician…that is intended to terminate an ongoing pregnancy.” That said, there are several types of possible abortions. While there are different ways to break these types down, we’ll simplify it here.

Miscarriage

Miscarriage can be defined as “a pregnancy that ends on its own, within the first 20 weeks of gestation.” This is the most common form of pregnancy loss, with 10-25% of all clinically recognized pregnancies ending in miscarriage. This usually occurs during the first 13 weeks of pregnancy. Miscarriage, while known as “spontaneous abortion,” is not what we mean when we say “abortion.” It is not a procedure by a healthcare provider. It is different from the other information about medical abortions covered here.

What is the Abortion Pill?

Is it the same as Plan B? How much does it cost? Is it safe?

Great questions! The abortion pill is not the same as Plan B, also known as the Morning After Pill. The Morning After Pill, or levonorgestrel , is a form of emergency contraception. Plan B prevents pregnancy by preventing ovulation (the release of an egg), thus preventing conception (the joining of sperm and egg.) If conception and implantation have already taken place, Plan B won’t end an existing pregnancy.

Back to the abortion pill.

Over 50% of abortions are medical abortions with the abortion pill. According to the Guttmacher Institute, 54% of US abortions in 2020 were medication abortions.

Medical abortion is actually two prescription pills, mifepristone and misoprostol. Cost can vary from state to state with different insurance, but is in the ballpark of $500. As with any medication, you should be fully informed of possible side effects. You can’t give informed consent for your reproductive health decisions unless you know the risks, benefits, and alternatives of your choices.

Let’s start with general abortion pill benefits.

You won’t be pregnant anymore unless the pills don’t work. That leads us to some of the abortion pill risks:

Risk reduction

Ultrasound can estimate the age of your pregnancy. A Help4Her Affiliate Location can offer free ultrasounds to check the age and health of your pregnancy. Most of these services are no-cost, which means no credit card, no insurance required, and no bias. (The center does not benefit financially from your decisions and won’t give you the hard sell for pills or procedures.) You can schedule a free, confidential visit to talk about all your options. Or if you don’t want to leave the house you can call and chat confidentially over the phone. (We haven’t figured out how to give ultrasounds by phone yet.) Either way, you can talk while non-judgmental staff listen.

That was a ton of information, and we have not covered surgical abortions yet!

Surgical Abortion

One method of surgical abortion is called an aspiration abortion. This is another type of abortion that occurs in the first trimester. The patient must be dilated before the procedure takes place. The abortion practitioner then uses either a plastic cannula or a hand-held syringe to pull the baby out of the uterus. Early-stage aspiration abortions are done between 5-9 weeks. They can, however, be done between 10-14 weeks if using a machine-operated pump.

Another method of surgical abortion is known as dilation and evacuation. This is the method used during the second trimester. It involves vacuum aspiration as well as forceps to remove the baby from the uterus. If it’s been more than 13 weeks since your last menstrual period, a dilation and evacuation is most likely the type of abortion you’ll be having. While this is typically an outpatient procedure, risks increase as your pregnancy progresses.

Risks Associated with Abortion

We just mentioned the fact that risks increase as your pregnancy progresses. That brings up an important topic many women are looking for when seeking abortion information. So what are the risks?

Cervical trauma. According to the Mayo Clinic , “Women who have multiple surgical abortion procedures may also have more risk of trauma to the cervix.” Cervical insufficiency can pose problems like preterm birth for future pregnancies.
Increased risk of breast cancer. Studies have listed “induced abortion” as a risk factor.
Emotional side effects related to abortion, whether the abortion was planned or not.
An increased risk of mental health problems . (For example, substance use and suicidality.)
Increased risk of dying within one year after the abortion. This study compared abortion outcomes with birth and miscarriage. The CDC found that from 2008 to 2013, for every 100,000 reported legal abortions, 0.62 led to later abortion-related deaths. And this statistic is not complete. Only 32 US states provide abortion data through 2020, and 3 don’t provide any data. One of those is California, which hosts a population of over 39 million. That means there are a lot of deaths that are most likely not reported and not included in the data set.

Pulmonary thromboembolism (a blood clot in the lung) is an infrequent yet serious complication of induced abortion. Risk factors include obesity, use of oral contraceptives, previous thrombophlebitis, or type A blood.

So What’s Right For You?

It’s important for you to gather accurate pregnancy and abortion information so you can make an informed decision. You hold key insights as to what’s going on in your life and what your future will look like. But people are here waiting to help. Do you need someone to talk to?

Find a Help4Her Affiliate Location to learn more about abortion, parenting, and adoption. You’ll get a thoughtful, non-judgmental response on the other end. Please note, our center doesn’t provide or perform abortions but can provide the abortion information you need. We’re here to help you choose the best next steps for your life.

Disclaimer Info: This website and blog does not provide medical advice, diagnosis or treatment.

Content from this website is not intended to be used for medical diagnosis or treatment. The information provided on this website is intended for educational use only and is not intended to be a substitute for professional medical advice.

3 Things You Need To Know Before Getting An Abortion

Fri, 23 May 2025 12:22:15 GMT

3 Critical Things to Know Before Scheduling an Abortion

At Help4Her, we know it’s your life that will be impacted by the decision you make about your pregnancy. So, before you pay someone to perform an abortion, it is your right to know all of your options and have all of the information you need to make an educated, and safe, decision. While for-profit clinics and hospitals are often driven more by money than concern for the patient, we exist solely because we care about you, without making a profit.

Our knowledgeable, compassionate staff are committed to thoroughly and honestly sharing the information you need to make an informed decision, including answering these three critical questions before scheduling an abortion.

Is Your Pregnancy Viable?

A viable pregnancy means you are carrying a baby that has a reasonable chance to develop fully and survive outside the womb. A non-viable pregnancy, then, means the fetus has either died or has no chance of being born alive and living outside the womb1 . Some non-viable pregnancies, such as an ectopic pregnancy (a pregnancy that is growing outside of the uterus), can pose a significant risk to the mother and cannot be addressed through abortion. For this reason, having an ultrasound prior to scheduling an abortion is critical, as it is the only way to definitively determine viability. At a Help4Her Affiliate Location, we can perform this ultrasound free of charge.

How Far Along Are You?

The gestational age of the fetus, or number of weeks since conception, is a key factor in determining the type of abortion you will receive, as well as its cost. Even though many women have a general idea of the date of their last period, the exact time the pregnancy began is an estimation. An ultrasound is the only way to definitively identify the true age and size of the fetus. In fact, without it, you could be offered the wrong type of abortion. A chemical abortion (the abortion pill), for example, could be recommended when you are actually past the 10-week window for that procedure’s safety or effectiveness. For this reason, a tele-medicine consultation is insufficient, as it cannot provide proof of pregnancy, proof of gestational age, or proof of a viable pregnancy, potentially putting you at risk. At a Help4Her Affiliate Location, we personally provide all of this information at no cost to you.

Do You Have an STI?

You may wonder what having an STI has to do with getting an abortion, but it is extremely important. If you have an STI, especially one of the two most common, chlamydia or gonorrhea, and aren’t treated before having an abortion, your risk of developing Pelvic Inflammatory Disease (PID) increases by 23% if the cervical infection is forced up into the uterus during the medical procedure 25 . PID increases your chances of having a future ectopic pregnancy, can decrease fertility, and can cause life-long pelvic inflammation and pain 26. Testing is especially important because these STIs can be present without any symptoms. Other STIs, such as cervical syphilis 27 , HIV/AIDS 28 , and Human PapillomaVirus (HPV) 29 , also need to be tested for early in pregnancy, regardless of your pregnancy intentions, as they can pose significant risks to your health.

The majority of abortion facilities do not test for STIs prior to performing an abortion procedure. If they do, they charge an additional fee. At select Help4Her Affiliate Locations, we can confidentially have you tested and treated for these STIs at no charge. Results of STI testing are usually available within one week.

Get a Referral for Your Pre-abortion Screening

At a Help4Her Affiliate Location, we are here to give you the answers to these three critical questions before undergoing an abortion. Our no-cost pre-abortion screening referrals include a pregnancy test, an ultrasound and STI testing all performed by a licensed medical professional.

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Problem: Boyfriend Wants Abortion

Fri, 23 May 2025 12:22:14 GMT

Help! My boyfriend wants me to get an abortion! When I discovered my unplanned pregnancy, I went through all the emotions, from fear to joy. Pregnancy hormones are intense. My boyfriend was the only person I told about my late period. Despite not using birth control, I thought that unplanned pregnancies only happened to other young women. My boyfriend was in denial. He insisted that I make sure I was really pregnant, so I got a free pregnancy test from my local Pregnancy resource center.

Now what should I do?

—Brittany*

(*Brittany’s name has been changed, and her story is an aggregate of women’s stories.)

Are you pregnant?

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Does your boyfriend want you to get an abortion?

Can you relate? Did your first conversation about your unexpected pregnancy go poorly? Maybe he just didn’t react well in the moment. Is he really opposed to you keeping the baby, or is he just ambivalent? Does he feel a baby would mean the loss of freedom? Does he want to have children someday?

Unwanted pregnancy brings up so many questions. You want to make the right decision, but your boyfriends is saying he hopes you make the “right choice” and you know he means abortion. There are so many important things to think about.

Keep the lines of communication open. Why does he want you to have an abortion? Sometimes a guy may say he wants an abortion because he thinks that’s what you want to hear. Have you told him about your feelings?

How are YOU feeling?

Are you afraid you can’t keep the baby without both practical support, and emotional support from your boyfriend? It's healthy and normal to both want and need support from others. You can build a support system of supportive friends and family with or without your boyfriend. Let's start by asking if your relationship with your boyfriend is healthy enough to be supportive.

Is your relationship healthy?

Whether or not you stay together depends on the quality of your relationship, not the presence or absence of a child. Is your boyfriend willing to listen to your feelings, and respectful of your wishes? Or are you afraid to talk to him because he has angry outbursts? Fearing your partner is not a healthy sign. See if your situation sounds like this woman with an unhealthy relationship. She described her own experience on a forum in response to a story of unplanned pregnancy much like Brittany’s:

Hi dear,

I'm sorry you’re in a tough spot. It closely reflects what I've been through! My unplanned pregnancy brought out the truth in my relationship. I realized my 28-year-old baby daddy would not be there to support me emotionally through an abortion. He saw it as his way out from parenting. Deciding was so difficult! For two months, I booked and canceled appointments. After having endless conversations with friends and family, posting here, arguing and crying daily with BD, I had to go with my heart. My heart is to keep the baby.

Now I'm single and 5 months pregnant. I'm so much happier to be alone compared to the stress, shame, and sadness he has caused me. BD left me a few months ago. It's a relief not having to try to make him stay. If I could have gone back in time when I first found out, I would have told myself to keep the baby and let him go immediately, based on how he was acting.

My little one and I will not be a perfect family, but I know that my child will be so loved and have every opportunity in their life. Yes, being pregnant and single sometimes feels lonely — but honestly, it's just pregnancy. It isn't as difficult as you think it will be.

One last thing: men and women are equally responsible for their own contraception. The fathers of our children could have insisted on condoms if they felt they were not ready to risk making a baby. There is nothing to feel guilty about. Listen to your heart and if you need support, please DM me (1)!

Support for your pregnancy

Speaking of support, did you know your local Pregnancy resource center can talk you through your pregnancy options? Know your legal rights - no one can force you to abort. In order to make the best decision, you need to know your available options. Client advocates at a Help4Her Affiliate Location can give you factual information about surgical abortion, medical abortion, parenting, and adoption.

If you’re still not sure how healthy your relationship is, it’s a good idea to talk to a client advocate about your boyfriend’s behavior. They can help you identify signs of domestic violence from controlling behavior to physical abuse. I know it’s hard to consider the possibility that the man you love might be abusive. The fact that he wants you to get an abortion when you don’t want one is concerning, and controlling.

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Serious safety considerations

Did you know there’s an association between abortion and domestic abuse? It’s not always the case, but sometimes an abusive relationship leads to unplanned pregnancy and then abortion. Put another way, women with a history of Intimate Partner Violence had significantly higher odds of unintended pregnancy and abortion (2). According to Dr. Burke, “the abortion rate and the domestic violence rate have risen almost side by side. Abortion, for both women and men, is associated with self-hatred, self-punishing behavior, and an increased tendency to act out anger and rage toward others.” (3). Work with your client advocate, and tell a safe family member if you need to make a safety plan.

If you are in crisis, call the National Domestic Violence Hotline 800.799.SAFE (7233)

For emergencies, call 911.

Boyfriend still wants abortion

Maybe your boyfriend isn’t toxic, and you’re still tempted to get an abortion to keep your relationship. Sometimes it’s helpful to map out all the possibilities. You could:

Keep the baby and keep the relationship
Keep the baby and lose the relationship
Lose the baby and keep the relationship
Lose the baby and lose the relationship

You’re in control of keeping the baby or not, but you’re not in complete control of your relationship. He might leave you after you have an abortion. Chances are if you’re reading this, you’re thinking about keeping the baby. If you ignore your heart and abort, you may feel “anger, resentment, and bitterness toward the partner who was not supportive or who ignored [your] desire to keep the baby.” (3). This resentment can destroy your relationship. Another woman from the same forum described how her abortion decision affected her relationship. Her boyfriend lied to her, claiming they could have another baby in the future. (No one can guarantee you a future pregnancy.) He argued he wouldn't leave and promised to support her. His promises were weak. She’s still clinging to the relationship, but now she feels empty. Before the procedure, she believed it was the right choice for her. Then a few days later she had doubts when the permanence of her decision set in. Now she wishes she didn’t do it. Her advice is two-fold: first, educate yourself, and second don’t go through with a decision unless you feel 100% (4).

Ask yourself, after a period of time, which decision am I more likely to regret?

Back to Brittany

Brittany felt calmer as she talked about all her feelings while her client advocate listened. She expected the woman to say something judgmental, but instead she highlighted all the resources they could offer her. Our Help4Her Affiliate Locations have free diapers, baby supplies, and classes for single parents and parents-to-be.

Need Support?

If your boyfriend is not willing or able to support you financially, check out the Top 3 Financial Resources for Pregnancy.

Thanks to the center, Brittany knew she could keep her unborn child, even without her boyfriend's financial help. She talked to her boyfriend more about his feelings about her pregnancy. He felt a mix of wonder, joy, guilt and pride. Turns out, he was afraid he would be a bad dad because he didn’t have a father growing up. She invited her boyfriend to attend parenting classes at the Pregnancy resource center with her. After her beautiful daughter was born, she knew keeping her was the best choice.

You can do this. This is not the first time pregnant women have decided to keep their unborn children. Maybe you’re thinking “Brittany had it easy. The fact that my boyfriend wants an abortion is not my only problem.” Client advocates have worked with hundreds of women with all sorts of problems. Get in touch to learn how we can help in your unique situation.

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Article Sources

*Brittany’s name has been changed, and her story is an aggregate of women’s stories

(1) Paraphrase Peaa67wij. (2018, January 12). Help - I want the baby, father doesn't. Netmums Forum. Retrieved April 22, 2022, from https://www.netmums.com/coffeehouse/pregnancy-terminations-1161/unplanned-pregnancy-46/1746791-help-i-want-baby-father-doesnt.html

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When Did I Conceive

Are you pregnant but unsure when you conceived? An ultrasound is the most accurate way to determine how far along your pregnancy is. Ultrasound exams provide images and measurements of your developing baby, which can help estimate how many weeks pregnant you are and your approximate conception date. If you are facing an unplanned pregnancy and considering your options in Louisiana, contact us for a free consultation and ultrasound services to confirm and date your pregnancy.

How to Know When You Conceived

In general, there are a few ways to determine your conception date. No method is 100% accurate, but some are more reliable than others.

Ovulation

The first way to find out your conception date is to determine when you were last ovulating. In general, women can only conceive when they are ovulating — that is, when their ovaries release a new egg into their fallopian tubes for fertilization. That means you can use your ovulation dates to try to determine when you became pregnant.

Ovulation usually occurs about two weeks after your menstrual period and lasts for two or three days. This means you can sometimes determine when you conceived based on your ovulation cycles — simply determine when your last menstrual period was and add approximately two weeks.

However, this method isn’t always accurate. Not all women have the same cycles of menstruation and ovulation, some women’s menstrual cycles are irregular, others have ovulation periods closer to or further from their menstrual period and some women simply aren’t sure when their last period was. In other words, calculating conception based only on your body cycles can be difficult.

Intercourse

Another way to learn your conception date is to try to determine the last time you had sexual intercourse. Unfortunately, this method isn’t totally accurate either. Conception is a process that takes time and a man’s sperm can actually stay alive inside your body for up to a week after sex.

This can make it difficult to determine when you conceived, especially if you have had more than one partner during the time when you ovulated. Also, remember that you could become pregnant even if you or your partner used birth control, since no method of birth control is 100% effective at preventing pregnancy.

Ultrasound

The best way to determine your conception date is with a pregnancy confirmation ultrasound. Early pregnancy ultrasounds can determine the age of your growing baby and when you likely conceived. The earlier in pregnancy that this ultrasound is performed, the more accurate the measurements will be, and the more likely you are able to determine the conception date. We provide free limited obstetric ultrasounds to confirm pregnancy. This method of determining your conception date can be more accurate than date-based calculation, especially for women with irregular periods or who don’t know their last menstrual period date.

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